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Chapter 6: How To Seduce Women

Once you find a woman you’d like to approach, you must know how to make initial contact with her. Once you achieve recognition, you have to be able to read her signals – do you continue your approach? Or do you take the red flag and get out of the game? This chapter is devoted to helping you learn the best strategy for approaching a woman. I will define the entire process, from initial contact and flirting, through conversation, touching, and to the bedroom. This chapter will lay the foundation for the more detailed discussions in the following chapters about specific flirting techniques (Chapter 7), how to initiate a conversation with a woman (Chapter 9), and what to say to a woman (Chapters 8, 9 & 10).

The seduction process can be broken down into three main stages. Each of these progressions – Recognition and Flirting, Conversation, and Chemistry – will be described for you in this chapter. As you read about each step, keep in mind that you must lead the woman through the seduction process. She ultimately gives the approval, but you maintain control. Understanding these methods will allow you to easily incorporate your existing knowledge and skills into the more advanced topics in later chapters.

Stage 1: Recognition and Flirting

Objective: Find Her, Acknowledge Her, Interpret Her Response

This stage is includes checking out your surroundings, observing all the potential target women, and deciding which woman you would like to pick up. Once you decide whom you will target, you must let her know that you are interested. You can do this by making eye contact with her, smiling at her, or giving her a little nod. Then, you must get a response from her. She will likely smile, raise her eyebrows or return the eye contact. Once you receive acknowledgement from her, you will subconsciously start making subtle body movements. These gestures include running your fingers through our hair, stretching, repositioning your self in your chair, touching your face, or adjusting your clothing. You may not even notice your movements – don’t worry about it! This behavior is usually a sign of anxiety and your apprehension of actually meeting her and talking to her. Some women may notice your body language, and those who do will find it appealing. It gives a woman indication that you intend to approach her.

After the initial response, you must improve your chances of getting further recognition from her. Chapter 7 goes into more detail about using and reading body language. What you read here are just the basics. Make sure you are in her line of vision. Adjust your position in the room so that you are facing her. Then subtly scan the room and, without looking AT her, try to catch her eye for another moment of eye contact. Now it is up to her to either discourage you or encourage you. She will either show interest, or she will turn away from you. If she turns away, cut your losses and move on to the next woman you find attractive. Don’t waste your time on a woman who isn’t interested. If she smiles at you, or moves towards you, this means she is interested. If she makes eye contact with you, be sure to smile! It conveys the message that you are interested, and you would like to meet her. Watch her body language for subtle gestures of encouragement – anything from fidgeting with her glass, looking down, or touching her face or hair. Any of this behavior indicates that she wants to meet you. She is inviting you with her body language. Keep in mind that women know quite well how to reject men. If she smiles at you or makes an effort to straighten her appearance then she is definitely sending you a signal of approval. Remember: You lead, so take the initiative and go over and say something to her.

Stage 2: Conversation

Objective: Approach Her, Talk to Her, Make Arrangements to See Her Again

From this point onwards, your success lies in your ability to verbally communicate with your targeted woman. She has already given you approval to approach her, now you have a chance to win her approval to see her again. The best way to be successful in the stage is to just go ahead and do it! The more you think about what you will say, or how she might react, the more you worry about going over to her and talking to her. Keep in mind you have absolutely nothing to lose!

You already know the importance of action. Now is the perfect time to execute initiative. Walk over to your targeted woman. If a woman sees you walking confidently towards her she will recognize that you are a self-assured man. At this point, you need to say something to her. All you need to do is break the ice, then she will reply and a conversation is ignited. What to say to women and how to approach them is discussed at length in Chapters 8 and 9. Also in Chapter 8 you will find out what vital information you must get from your conversation with a woman.

During this stage, there should be more eye contact, and continuing body language. You may notice that your gestures reflect hers, or vice versa. This is a sign that you are becoming comfortable with the conversation and a connection is being made. With this positive behavior, you should either ask for her number so that you can call her, or set up a time and place to meet again. (Chapter 10 discusses how to date women, and what to say to them before and during your dates.)

It will take practice to become comfortable approaching women, but with time and experience, you will soon find out what techniques work best for you.

Stage 3: Chemistry

Objective: Physical Contact

This stage is based on creating a connection with a woman. She has to trust you, and be able to communicate with you. This connection can be made in seconds, or it might take a few dates, or it may never happen. In Chapter 11 you will learn effective techniques for building this connection.

Once you create sexual chemistry with a women you desire, then you will have no problem finding the opportunity to get closer to her. There will be the urge for physical contact with the woman. Likely examples are brushing against each other, touching legs under the table, or touching shoulders if you are sitting beside one another. While walking, you want to touch her waist or her back, or hold her hand. This behavior often develops after a couple of dates, if not sooner, and almost always leads to kissing and cuddling.

Once you get a woman into this stage, it’s just a matter of
timing and charm before you get her into your bed.

These three stages of seduction are the basis for the remaining chapters in this book. The following chapters offer more detailed information, and many useful suggestions for making the seduction process easier.

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