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Chapter 11: How To Create Sexual Chemistry

Sexual chemistry is a mutual sexual attraction between two people. It is every man’s desire to have a mutual lustful connection with a beautiful woman. The important word here is mutual. If the attraction is one-sided then there is no chemistry – simple as that. This is why you must learn how to create sexual chemistry with a woman and make her feel attracted to you.

Once you are interacting with a woman it is important to focus on creating chemistry between you to ensure that you will get positive reactions from this woman. Despite common belief that you have no control over how much a woman is attracted to you, this isn’t the case at all. In fact, you can learn to generate sexual chemistry with a woman you desire. You will soon see how you can manipulate yourself to create certain feelings in her and how to use those feelings to generate sexual chemistry. This chapter will show you how to recognize, create and use sexual chemistry with any woman you meet.

Read and study this chapter carefully and you will learn how to generate sexual chemistry just as you would learn to play golf – with a good foundation, and enough practice, you’ll be hitting a hole-in-one every time!

The Theory of Likeness

Despite the saying "opposites attract" a women usually wants men who are like themselves. This means that you have to make a woman feel that you understand her, and that you are on the same wavelength. You can make a woman feel that relate well to her by acting the same way. When a woman senses this rapport she will be more attracted to you and she will want to explore her attraction further. Women enjoy being around people who are similar to her.

Most men think that a woman’s sexual attraction to a man is based primarily on physical aspects – looks, charm, sparkly eyes – but verbal communication plays a big part in this as well. When you are conversing with a woman it is important to be agreeable and to emphasize your similarities. Point out shared qualities and shared beliefs. Try not to disagree with her, and never point out how you are different.

Allow a woman to see all the commonalities and she will
allow herself to become more connected to you.

The purpose of making a woman see your similarities is to create a feeling of likeness for her. Once she realizes that you have definite dating potential in her near future she will be compelled to like you. She will be drawn in by your connectivity and she will want to get to know you better.

Create a Connection

You want a woman to feel connected to you, because then she will trust you and be more willing to say "Yes" when you ask her out, or for her number. For a woman to feel connected, you have to create a feeling of likeness with her, as discussed above. You need to know a few key tools to use when creating chemistry with a woman. The following are techniques you can use to tap into a woman’s subconscious. None of these techniques should be obvious to her, but she’ll sense a greater connection to you if you use them effectively.

Technique 1: Use Your Physical Appearance

Any woman you are interested in will have a definite style that she dresses by. Your goal is to match her style by dressing in a similar fashion – this could be sporty, casual, professional, or trendy. If you have your eye on a particular woman, you should try to reflect her appearance. A woman will notice men who are portraying an image similar to her own. If you are interested in a type of woman different from those you have dated previously, maybe it’s time that you take a look at yourself and change your image. Project the image you desire and you will attract women with that image.

Another aspect of your physical appearance is your body condition. Do you want to date a woman who works out regularly? Chances are a woman who works out will look for that same quality in a man. If you want to date, or just sleep with, a toned and firm woman then you should be sure to maintain your own physique. Are you less active, and you have "love-handles" on your waist? Be sure to keep your expectations realistic when looking for a woman to be with.

Technique 2: Use Verbal Communication

The most helpful way to determine a woman’s mood is to listen to her voice. The easiest way to reflect her mood is to use match your verbal communication. You not only need to listen to what she is saying, but also to how she says things. Traits to observe and imitate in a woman’s voice include her tone, volume and pace. Listen to a woman’s voice and reflect it to create a feeling of likeness with her.

You need to match your voice to hers. A woman will instinctively feel more comfortable with you when you talk on her level, whatever that may be. If she is mellow and relaxed then you should speak slowly and softly. If a woman is bubbly and excited then you should speak a little louder, and with an up beat pace. You should follow her lead, but don’t be too obvious that you are copying her.

Another part of verbal communication is what she is saying. Really listen to what she says and listen for frequently used vocabulary. Try to use the same words or phrases in your responses. She will unlikely notice your efforts to talk the same, but her subconscious will pick up on the similarities.

Technique 3: Use Your Body Language

I have already discussed how to use and interpret body language to initiate interest in Chapter 7. This section isn’t quite so intense. At this point, you are already talking to the woman you are interested in so you aren’t as concerned about interpreting her body language as you are imitating it. You should learn to mirror her body’s motions and her gestures to create a sense of similarity.

Reflecting her body language includes most physical gestures and movements. You should use your hands similarly and you should face the same direction with your body. If she is leaning over the table you are sitting at, then you should also be leaning over the table. If she is leaning against a wall or the bar, then you should do the same. Follow her gestures and body positioning to build a better rapport with her. When you are talking to her, and she leans her head, or she puts her weight to one side, then you should subtly imitate her movements. Try not to draw attention to the fact that you are copying her body language. She might notice that you are acting the same, but as long as it isn’t glaringly obvious, it shouldn’t offend her. She may even be flattered!

Matching her physical behavior will
enhance her connection to you.

Once you start using this technique, and you physically move the same as the woman you are with, you will notice that you interact more smoothly. She will feel connected to you and she’ll want to be around you.

Likeness -> Connection -> Attraction -> Sexual Chemistry -> Success!

This chapter opens up infinite doors for success with women. All you need to do is learn these basic techniques and use them effectively. Once you master the tricks of creating a connection with a woman, the sexual chemistry will follow shortly. The final step of seducing a woman (and the next step after sexual chemistry!) is to act on the mutual sexual attraction, and is described in Chapter 12 How to Get Women to Sleep With You.

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