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Chapter 2: Who You Are And Who You Want

You deserve the best woman out there for you. If you are like most guys I know, you don’t have her yet. This means You Need a Plan. You may need a plan to find a woman, to improve your current girlfriend, or to replace the woman you have. Any woman you’re with should bring out the best in you, love you, accept you, share the good times and stand by you through the bad times. Don’t settle for a second-rate girlfriend – be with a woman who makes you feel like a God!

For you to find a woman with all the qualities you want, you first have to know about yourself. I guarantee that if you know yourself, and what you want, women will be eager to be with you. If you carry yourself with confidence and show women that you are secure you will immediately attract women and capture their attention. This chapter will lay the foundation for your future success with any woman you want.

Knowing who you are and what you want exudes personal power.
You must figure out your game plan to get the woman you want.

With this in mind pay close attention and don’t rush though this chapter. There will be plenty of time in later chapters for learning everything you need to know about approaching, talking to and seducing women. Be patient and learn first about yourself. Once you know who you are, and what you want, you will be better equipped to look at what kinds of women you would likely connect with. We will then derive a description of her and a list of requirements she must fulfill before you give her further consideration. You should not be wasting time with unworthy women. This chapter is intended to get you focused on you, your personal goals, and the woman of your dreams.

Collect Information

Have you ever seen a picture of a well-dressed guy in a magazine and thought you’d like to look like him? Or of a woman you could see yourself being with? Well, all these pictures, photos, advertisements, need to be collected and saved! Use these images as incentives to realize your goals. Imagine yourself looking that good, or with that perfect woman. As well, cut out articles or ads for singles events, or of places you might like to go for a date. Collect any inspiring pictures as a way to visualize your objectives and remain focused. When the time comes for a date with an amazing woman, use the ads to create an exciting date filled with adventure and fun!

As you read through this chapter you will be asking yourself several questions about you and the type of woman you want. You will benefit more from this chapter if you write down the answers to all the upcoming questions. You’re going to be referring to your self-analysis many times in the upcoming pages. In order to become proficient at picking up and seducing women, you’re going to change and grow. By writing this stuff down you’ll have means to measure your progress, evaluate your results and learn from your mistakes. Keep your written work together with your collected pictures and/or advertisements in a folder or notebook. Your written record of your personal and dating progress will mark where you started, how you’re doing and where you’re going.

The Future is in Your Hands

Nothing about meeting an attractive woman and winning her favor is luck. You are in charge of your life. Where you are and who your friends are is a direct result of your life choices. The people you know are people you have attracted. You create these relationships, consciously or not, and you have the control to build new and better relationships right now. In fact, you can even decide what kinds of women you’ll be meeting and dating before you actually meet them! Simply by first knowing who you are and then by describing the kind of woman you want, you’re going to put together a plan you can follow for tangible results. Don’t leave things to chance or luck. You are responsible for the opportunities that come to you in your life.

Everything that happens to you
is directly related to your choices in life.

If you rely on an uncontrollable imaginary force (such as luck, or chance) you will be giving up the power to take your life into your own hands. You should become personally accountable for all you experience – good and bad – so make sure you engineer your choices to reflect your goals and objectives. Every decision you make will have subtle or considerable effects on your life. Be sure you stay focused on what you want and you will be happy.

Who Are You?

This is the time to start thinking about Who You Are. This section will help you to figure out who you are, and what you have to offer a woman. First step: describe yourself. What would you say? Well, a good start is a physical description. So that’s what you will do now.

Get a pen and start writing.

Write a physical description of yourself. Include your age, height, weight, physical build, and personality. Be sure to describe who you ARE, and not who you think you are, or who you think you should be. Build a realistic description of who YOU are and what you represent. Be honest with yourself, and go with your first impulses. Don’t leave out your weaknesses, but also be positive and look for your strong points. Don’t risk compromising your self-expression and confidence by only listing out all your inadequacies and hang-ups. Such a list is self-defeating, whereas focusing on your positive traits will make you feel better about who you are; and when you feel better about yourself, you’ll feel more relaxed and confident around women, too. Women sense this, and they’ll feel good being around you.

Take a look at these questions. Answer them honestly.

1. Are you reliable, honest, funny, educated, shy or outgoing, practical or uninhibited?
2. Do you have a large social group of friends and co-workers, or do you like to spend time with just one or two important people?
3. What have your past relationships with women been like? Who ends them? Why?
4. What is your current financial status?
5. What are your religious and political views?
6. What beliefs and values do you live by?

   Now, this next group of questions is more important. You should spend a little more time on your answers.

7. What activities do you enjoy?
8. What are you interested in?
9. What are your hobbies, if any?
10. Are you happy in your career, or would you like to learn new skills and change jobs?
11. Who or what would you like to become?
12. If you could do anything to spend your time, what would you choose to do?

Write this down while the ideas are spontaneous and instinctual. Your first impulses are more likely to be the truth. The more you think about your answers the more likely it will be something you think you should write, not the truth. Don’t cheat yourself – you’ll be using this analysis to increase your chances of getting the woman of your dreams. Of course, you can always go back and add more ideas to your notes later.

Focus on What You Want

What you think about and focus on is, inevitably, what you are going to get out of life. You have to think about new ideas, new goals and new women, or your mind and behavior will exhibit the old ideas, patterns and people. If you don’t focus on and visualize the woman of your dreams and imagine ways of meeting her all the time, then you’ll probably end up meeting someone who resembles your last girlfriend, or worse!

Avoid thinking about what you don’t want. If you think about not wanting a boring lazy woman, and you focus on that, chances are you’ll be meeting more of them than any other kind of woman.

You must FOCUS on what you WANT
in order to GET what you WANT.

This applies to all aspects of your life – not just women. If you just focus on obstacles you come across, instead of your ultimate goals, you’ll continue to have setbacks! You have to focus and think about what you want all the time.

Define Your Desires

Now we find out what kind of woman you are really looking for. Start by writing down a detailed and realistic physical description of her. Is she tall or short? Thin or big-boned? Does she have short or long hair? Is she sexy, exotic, and alluring? Is she the girl-next-door type? Does she have a casual appearance or a smart and sophisticated look? Be sure to go for what you want. Write down what body type you would prefer to take to bed. What will get you excited? What kind of woman turns you on? What traits do you look for in a woman? Does she have slim long legs or curvy hips and thighs? Is she in a certain age group? Does she work out regularly? Athletic? Consider everything you can think of!

Now what personality type does your dream woman have? Is she outgoing or shy? Does she love to go out and socialize, or is she more of a homebody type that loves to cook and sew? Is she a lady or a tramp? Or a little of both? Write down anything you WANT. What are her music and food preferences? Does she like sporting events? Nightclubs? Traveling? Shopping? Does she like animals? Children? Does she have any children? Does she have a career? Is she a student?

You are going to find definite traits and requirements that you’re looking for in a woman. Don’t feel shy, or guilty, about these requirements. Never feel ashamed for who you are and for what you want. There are many kinds of women out there, and many of them will meet your demands. You need to decide your minimum requirements. You also need to figure out which qualities or attributes you are willing to compromise.

As you progress through meeting and dating different types of women your ideal woman may lose or adopt new qualities. You must stay focused on what you want, even if that keeps changing, in order to progress in a positive direction. By knowing what you want, you’ll be able to eliminate undesirable types of women. You want to meet and get women you desire with little hassles or wasted efforts.

So that’s the end of this chapter. If you have answered the questions honestly you should know more about who you are, and what you are looking for. I’ll bet that if you look over your analysis you’ll find that the woman you want has similar physical and personality traits as yourself. No doubt she shares similar interests and values, and she probably likes guys like you. The information gathered here will be used later on to advance your plan to pick up and seduce the woman (or women!) of your dreams.

If you have not yet gone through and answered the questions in this chapter – in writing! – then STOP whatever you’re doing and answer them NOW! It is in your own best interest to know who you are and what you want. Chapter 3 talks about what women want, so you need to know what you have going for and what you might have to change to become more attractive and approachable to women.

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