First of all, it should be noted that one man in 3 ejaculates
quicker than he wants to, and that the vast majority of men sometimes
ejaculate too quickly. So if this happens to you, you're hardly
alone.
The following are some tips and exercises that will
assist you in learning to control this problem:
For starters, you might drink a glass of wine before having sex.
Alcohol may relax you just enough to delay your ejaculation. Or there's
the old tried and true practice of masturbating a few hours before making
love. If you "take care of your business" early, it will take you longer
to ejaculate when the time comes to do it with your partner .
You can learn to tolerate long periods of sexual pleasure
without ejaculating once you learn to recognize the feelings that precede
your orgasm. There is an exercise you can try called The "One to Ten"
Approach. Imagine that the scale of pleasure runs from 1 to 10: 1 you are
just starting to feel aroused; 10 you have an orgasm and ejaculate.
Therefore 9, the point just before your orgasm, is your point of no
return. Try masturbating. When you reach your magic point 8, stop and let
the urge to ejaculate subside. Then start masturbating again. Do this a
few times. Masturbate, stop, masturbate. At the end of 15 minutes you can
ejaculate (if you wish). Repeat this technique until you are able to enjoy
your arousal without ejaculating for 15 minutes.
Another method that reduces the chance of premature ejaculation is
one that we mention in your workout- Give Your PC Muscles a Squeeze.
Review our discussion of Kegel (PC) Muscles if you've forgotten where
these muscles are located. Strong PC muscles operate like a good set of
brakes in your car- by contracting the muscles, you can control your
arousal the same way you use your brakes to control speed. In the broadest
terms of how to apply this muscle when making love, you prolong orgasms by
a simulation of "stopping your urination in midstream". Learn the powers
of these muscles and how to use them. They will work wonders in the
bedroom!
Finally, the oldest, simplest & best method for learning
ejaculatory control is called the Locking Method. When having sex, if you
feel yourself becoming too excited... simply withdraw your penis from the
vagina and pull back so that only the head of your penis remains inside
her. Then just remain motionless for 15 - 30 seconds. Wait for the urge to
subside, then back to where you left off.